Do you wonder why you’re in this kind of partnership?
The reason is that the other person fills a need for you by allowing you to live within a familiar dysfunctional pattern.
Doing so can feel easier than having to confront and work through your own issues.
But this situation can be a gift if you use it to wake yourself up and transform these issues.
To begin this work ask yourself who your partner represents in your life—a parent, grandparent, teacher, other authority figure, sibling, friend, ex partner, etc.
Then, either with a therapist, or on your own if you think you’re able to, process this person as an inner figure—a part of your psyche that injures you in some way.
If you aren’t yet aware of this part of yourself, playact your partner and meditate on it until you can identify it as something in your past or your inner life.
This part of you gives you thoughts and emotions that hurt rather than support you.
Observe how this happens, and notice how you react.
Also notice and amplify the parts of you that provide solutions and changes–new ways of thinking, feeling, reacting, perceiving, and being.
After making some progress you can decide if the relationship is still right for you.
Pursuing a healthy relationship can be scary because it requires you to open up to your own inner process.
On Sept. 3rd I launch my podcast where I’m going to share lots of methods for working on yourself and your relationships!
