Loneliness is painful but it has transformative powers if you use it right.

by | April 27, 2020

Loneliness is painful but it has transformative powers if you use it right.
Loneliness is an experience of disconnection, but it’s not always people we lack connection with; sometimes it’s something within ourselves we’re alienated from, and this can make us feel lonely too.

Oftentimes we use distractions, including relationships, to avoid having to deal with this inner disunion.

Begin by connecting with the part of you that’s confident and knows you can get through this difficult time, even if it’s just 1% of you.

Amplify this strong part of you by working out, doing breathing exercises, taking cold showers, and journaling about your strengths, and the victories you’ve had in your life.

Next, meditate on the lonely part by welcoming and accepting it, going into it, observing and studying it, but not identifying with it.

People say, “I am lonely,” in the same way, they say, “I am Mary,” meaning they wholly identify with it.

This traps you and make it difficult to change your state of mind.

Instead of saying, “I am lonely,” say, “I have a lonely part of me.”

Then you can relate to this lonely part from the stronger, more confident part of you.

Ask the lonely part what it needs from you.

If it’s just contact with others, try relating online, but this may not solve the problem.

Go deeper into the process by imagining the type of connection you long for.

Vision and feel what it would be like.

What state of mind does it put you into?

This isn’t only something you can experience with another person—it’s an inner state of awareness and self love you can own!

Practice living this experience within yourself.

Fate and your process are asking you to raise yourself to a higher level by integrating the relationship connection you seek as an inner way of being.

Now is a great time to practice this.

Before you know it, things will be back to normal, so don’t pass up this chance to grow.

You’re awesome and you’re going to make it!

Dr. Zwig
©2022 Dr. Adam Zwig

Meet Dr. Adam Zwig—psychologist-musician, educator, and author. He holds a PhD in clinical psychology, has had 9 Top Ten hit singles on the U.S Adult Contemporary charts, and is an internationally renowned workshop leader and lecturer. He has been featured on Billboard, SiriusXM Radio, CBS Radio, and many other stations, and in People Magazine, SPIN, Pollstar, and many other publications. Dr. Zwig has released 7 albums, and his music can be heard on National TV, including NBC, Fox, and Fuel TV. He has more than 160 million views on YouTube, over half a million social media followers, and has scored in the top 10% of rock artists streamed on Spotify in 2022. His forthcoming book, Music in the Mayhem: Tales of Total Transformation from a Rock n Roll Psychologist, shows how life problems are not pathological but rather personal growth processes trying to happen. His podcast, The Dr. Zwig Show, posts new episodes every Wednesday.

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