Conventional psychology has it backwards: Trying to conform to a societal standard of normality doesn’t make us well—it makes us ill!
In my decades of clinical practice I’ve rarely seen someone heal and transform their life by trying to be “normal.”
To the contrary, people change, grow, and feel well when they’re able to connect with and express their true, unique, weird inner self regardless of what society’s rule makers (or one’s internal rule maker) say.
Bad states of mind and painful situations arise when we marginalize the parts or ourselves that don’t fit in with the world’s (or our own) idea of how we should be.
Pushing away the problem actually feeds it, irritates it, makes it want to shout louder.
If we manage to silence it by avoiding, medicating, rationalizing, or meditating it away, we feel better in the moment but kill our potential, our spirit trying to get free.
Close your eyes and take three slow, deep breaths, and come into the present moment with your awareness.
Imagine being connected to your absolutely uninhibited, confident, unique, creative, expressive, powerful, beautiful, weird, free self.
It doesn’t have to be some totally out-there, 24-7 insanity—just a way of being in tune with your true, deepest nature.
Visualize yourself being and living this wonderfully “crazy” way.
Feel into it and get a physical sense of who you are independent of all the preconceptions of who you’re supposed to be.
Stand up and move your body in a way that expresses this way of being.
Then ask yourself what in you is against this way of being.
How do you stop yourself from living your true spirit?
Is it an inner critic?
A fear of what others will think?
A fear of losing a partner or friend?
An inner rationalizer that convinces you that you need to repress yourself?
A legit fear of oppressive or abusive people in your environment?
Then begin working on this inner conflict.
Not only will it move you closer to freedom and wellness, it will also help you transform your problems.
Cure your sanity! : )