In my decades of clinical practice I’ve rarely seen someone heal and transform their life by trying to be “normal.”
I’ve seen folks suppress their troubles long term with medication or mind tricks so they could feel “normal” in the sense of functioning better, but this isn’t true change and growth; it’s a psychological bypass, a short circuiting of the process.
People transform their lives when they learn to connect with and express their unique, authentic, deep inner self regardless of what society’s rule makers (or one’s internal rule makers) say.
Chronic mental distress arises when we unconsciously marginalize the parts or ourselves that don’t fit in with the world’s (or our own) idea of how we’re supposed to be.
Try this:
Close your eyes and take three slow, deep breaths, and come into the present moment with your awareness.
Imagine being in touch with your absolutely uninhibited, confident, creative, expressive, powerful, beautiful, one-of-a-kind free self.
It doesn’t have to be something wild—just in tune with who you sense you really are in your core.
Visualize yourself being and living this wonderfully “crazy” way.
Feel into it and get a physical sense of who you are independent of all the preconceptions of who you’re supposed to be.
Stand up and move your body in a way that expresses this way of being.
Then ask yourself what in you is against this.
What stops you from living your true spirit?
Is it an inner critic?
A fear of what others will think?
A fear of losing a partner or friend?
A legit fear of oppressive or abusive people in your environment?
Then begin working on this inner conflict by dialoguing with the inner blocker.
Not only will it move you closer to freedom and wellness, it will also help you transform your problems.
Cure your sanity! : )
