To change your problem you have to become a different person!

by | December 18, 2021

To change your problem you have to become a different person!
There are two main elements of personal growth.

The first, involves connecting with the changes that need to happen.

We must transcend our habitual way of experiencing and interpreting life.

We have to “exit the system” so-to-speak, get outside of what we know in order to feel and see a new way.

Easier said than done.

Why?

Change lies within the unknown and it takes courage to explore this space.

No matter how much we believe in our current self concept it becomes obsolete at some point.

Our true self lies beyond it.

Sometimes we spontaneously connect with a solution or a new way of being but it usually requires interventions that change our awareness.

The second, is integrating the changes.

When we experience a breakthrough we often feel free and elated for a while but then fall back to our old, familiar self.

Change takes time, and the road is crooked.

There isn’t a linear blueprint for overcoming our problems.

The only way to transform them is to follow our process as it changes day-by-day.

Even if we know where we need to go there’s no one set way to get there.

One day we need to be tough and fierce, the next day soft and cuddly : )

And the destination itself can even change along the way.

This is why I teach methods for tapping into one’s current process instead of issuing generalized solutions and platitudes.

To change your problem you have to find out how your problem wants to change you.

Try this:

Think of a real or imaginary character who could get free of your issue.

How would they do it?

What qualities do they have that would enable them to be free of it?

Visualize the figure.

Feel what it would be like to be this character.

Imagine having its mind.

Notice how it uses its body.

Then stand up and walk / move like it does; embody it.

BE this new way!

If you can’t, explore what stops you.

A fear?

A belief system?

A critic?

Talk to it.

Tell it your deepest feelings and thoughts, including the forbidden ones.

Listen to its replies.

Fight it. Learn from it. Process it.

Work toward integrating the qualities of this awesome character!

Dr. Zwig

©2022 Dr. Adam Zwig

Meet Dr. Adam Zwig—psychologist-musician, educator, and author. He holds a PhD in clinical psychology, has had 9 Top Ten hit singles on the U.S Adult Contemporary charts, and is an internationally renowned workshop leader and lecturer. He has been featured on Billboard, SiriusXM Radio, CBS Radio, and many other stations, and in People Magazine, Pollstar, and many other publications. Dr. Zwig has released 7 albums, has songs on NBC, Fox, and Fuel TV, and has garnered over 150 million views on YouTube. His forthcoming book, Music in the Mayhem: Tales of Total Transformation from a Rock n Roll Psychologist, shows how life problems are not pathological but rather personal growth processes trying to happen. His podcast, The Dr. Zwig Show, posts new episodes every Wednesday.

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