The first, involves connecting with the changes that need to happen.
We must transcend our habitual way of experiencing and interpreting life.
We have to “exit the system” so-to-speak, get outside of what we know in order to feel and see a new way.
Easier said than done.
Change lies within the unknown and it takes courage to explore this space.
No matter how much we believe in our current self concept it becomes obsolete at some point.
Our true self lies beyond it.
Sometimes we spontaneously connect with a solution or a new way of being but it usually requires interventions that change our awareness.
The second, is integrating the changes.
When we experience a breakthrough we often feel free and elated for a while but then fall back to our old, familiar self.
Change takes time, and the road is crooked.
There isn’t a linear blueprint for overcoming our problems.
The only way to transform them is to follow our process as it changes day-by-day.
Even if we know where we need to go there’s no one set way to get there.
One day we need to be tough and fierce, the next day soft and cuddly : )
And the destination itself can even change along the way.
This is why I teach methods for tapping into one’s current process instead of issuing generalized solutions and platitudes.
To change your problem you have to find out how your problem wants to change you.
Think of a real or imaginary character who could get free of your issue.
How would they do it?
What qualities do they have that would enable them to be free of it?
Visualize the figure.
Feel what it would be like to be this character.
Imagine having its mind.
Notice how it uses its body.
Then stand up and walk / move like it does; embody it.
BE this new way!
If you can’t, explore what stops you.
A belief system?
Talk to it.
Tell it your deepest feelings and thoughts, including the forbidden ones.
Listen to its replies.
Fight it. Learn from it. Process it.
Work toward integrating the qualities of this awesome character!