It doesn’t matter what people think of you as long as you follow the path of your heart.

by | August 30, 2021

It doesn't matter what people think of you as long as you follow the path of your heart.
In the book, “The Teachings of Don Juan,” the character, Don Juan, says, “Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere but one has a heart, the other doesn’t. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life.

“One makes you strong; the other weakens you. Before you embark on any path ask the question: Does this path have a heart? If the answer is no, you will know it, and then you must choose another path. A path without a heart is never enjoyable. You have to work hard even to take it. On the other hand, a path with heart is easy; it does not make you work at liking it.”

Try this:

Set aside some time to assess yourself and your life.

In what ways do you follow your path of heart, your true spirit?

In what ways do ignore your deeper self and adapt to how other people want you to be?

Study the latter and ask yourself what benefit you get from it, and what damage is caused.

Then imagine someone who has the confidence and self love to follow their true self in this area of their life.

Visualize the figure.

Feel into it. Embody it.

Stand up and walk like he / she / it walks.

Inhabit its mind—its attitude, way of thinking, and especially how it deals with the fear of people disapproving of you.

Be this character!

If you want to go further in the process, ask yourself what in you is against being this way.

Is it an inner critic, parent, partner, friend, boss, or your culture?

Or something else?

Dialogue with this figure and process the interaction.

Work toward integrating your connection to your true self regardless of how others say you should be.

It doesn’t matter what people think of you as long as you follow the path of your heart.

Dr. Zwig

©2021 Dr. Adam Zwig

Meet Dr. Adam Zwig—psychologist-musician, educator, and author. He holds a PhD in clinical psychology, has had 9 Top Ten hit singles on the U.S Adult Contemporary charts, and is an internationally renowned workshop leader and lecturer. He has been featured on Billboard, SiriusXM Radio, CBS Radio, and many other stations, and in People Magazine, Pollstar, and many other publications. Dr. Zwig has released 7 albums, has songs on NBC, Fox, and Fuel TV, and has garnered over 140 million views on YouTube. His forthcoming book, Music in the Mayhem: Tales of Total Transformation from a Rock n Roll Psychologist, shows how life problems are not pathological but rather personal growth processes trying to happen. His podcast, The Dr. Zwig Show, posts new episodes every Wednesday.

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