Your negative inner story is the doorway to positive change!

by | August 21, 2021

Your negative inner story is the doorway to positive change!
It’s become popular in therapy and self-help to use mindfulness methods for observing the negative stories we tell ourselves (“I’m not good enough,” “No one will ever love me,” etc.) with the aim of realizing they’re just stories, and we don’t have to be oppressed by them.

This is an important first step, and can bring a mild sense of relief from inner criticism, self-doubt, and worry.

But if this is all we do, we miss the whole point of the story! It contains vital information that’s meant to wake us up and guide us to our more evolved self.

Our inner stories are incomplete dreams told by specific parts of our psyche.

Visualize “who” in you is telling the story:⁣ Your inner mother, father, or partner? Your culture, sub-culture, or friend group?

Then, dialogue with the story teller to unfold its message. Find out what it wants.

Is it afraid and needs your reassurance?

Is it angry, hurt, or frustrated and needs you to change something in your life?

Is it trying to make you aware of something you’re unaware of?

Is it in need of education about something?

Is it a spinning fantasy as a symbolic expression of something you need to work on?

Resist the negativity, and explore it as a mystery with a message to unravel.

If it’s a critic, you may need to integrate its power (which is YOUR power) by toughening up and saying no to it.

But it may have an important message for you.

For example, the story that you’re good enough is often a driver of growth and success.⁣ It doesn’t really mean you’re not good enough, it means your process wants to make you aware of your potential in some area of your life.

It wants you to improve something about yourself.

Alternately, it might be there to provoke you to get stronger in standing against a false idea of how you should be.

You never know until you process it.

Don’t dismiss it as “just a story.” By doing so you fail to uncover its meaning, purpose, and value.

It’s like taking a pill to suppress your symptoms; you detach from the issue but you quash your growth. You also exacerbate it by ignoring its message.

Your negative inner story is the doorway to positive change!

Dr. Zwig

©2021 Dr. Adam Zwig

Meet Dr. Adam Zwig—psychologist-musician, educator, and author. He holds a PhD in clinical psychology, has had 9 Top Ten hit singles on the U.S Adult Contemporary charts, and is an internationally renowned workshop leader and lecturer. He has been featured on Billboard, SiriusXM Radio, CBS Radio, and many other stations, and in People Magazine, Pollstar, and many other publications. Dr. Zwig has released 7 albums, has songs on NBC, Fox, and Fuel TV, and has garnered over 150 million views on YouTube. His forthcoming book, Music in the Mayhem: Tales of Total Transformation from a Rock n Roll Psychologist, shows how life problems are not pathological but rather personal growth processes trying to happen. His podcast, The Dr. Zwig Show, posts new episodes every Wednesday.

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