SELF HELP EXERCISES

Are you in a relationship in which your issues get triggered repeatedly? Do you wonder why you’re in this kind of partnership? The reason is that the other person fills a need for you by allowing you to live within a familiar dysfunctional pattern. Doing so can feel...

I find it disconcerting that many so-called mental health “experts” offer no tools for processing depression and anxiety. They relate to these problems as if they’re viruses or bacteria to get rid of. Their methods aim to make you “feel better” in the moment by trying...

Self talk is a powerful determiner of how we feel in life. It’s even more powerful than fate itself. The problem is that we’re often not conscious of who’s talking—which part of our psyche is mouthing off. We just unconsciously identify with it, and suffer the bad...

Adversity leads us down one of two paths—retreating into less or growing into more. Which path are you on? You can make a conscious choice of the one you want to take. If you choose the path of growth, use adversity as your rocket fuel for change. Don’t run away from...

Whether you consciously experience fear or not, it defines you in many ways. It determines who you are and what you can do in life. We tend to orient our lives in ways that avoid our fears, and in doing so, quash our natural growth. In fact, it’s such an automatic...

Feel lost, lonely, and disconnected? The solution lies within. Try this: Visualize someone else who’s lonely, for example, an abandoned child sitting on the street corner. Talk to him / her and listen to the responses. Ask what he / she needs. Then identify how you...

Don’t get locked into a bad state of mind by convincing yourself you can’t get out of it. Self talk is the most powerful form of hypnosis, and you have the power to either tighten your mood’s grip on you, or loosen and change it. If you feel down, anxious, afraid,...