SELF HELP EXERCISES

What messes up your life is the seed of your wisdom! Use your problems as your guide to your growth. If you feel messed up, take a step back and study yourself, especially the inner stories you spin. Don’t just believe them. Don’t fall under their spell. And don't try...

We tend to lose ourselves in our daily routines and life situations to the point of forgetting why we're alive and what we’re meant to do here. We go through the motions but are disconnected from the meaning and purpose of our actions. Or perhaps we’ve never connected...

Asking yourself the right questions is the beginning of making positive change in your life. 1. Where are you in your relationship(s)? Which of your deepest needs are being met and which aren’t? What forbidden thoughts and feelings are you not expressing? What are...

Instead of starting your work day in the usual way—buckle down, get serious, make lists, kill the fun, etc.—flip the script and dance! Put on your favorite music, let go of your thoughts, and dance up a crazy storm for ten minutes! It can center you into the right...

Always find time to do the things that make you feel happy to be alive! No matter what’s going on make sure to do your soul-nourishing activities. You can also use them to grow and solve problems by studying what they do for you. What state of mind and body do they...

Contemplate your life from the view of the cosmos! As often as you can take a few minutes to look at your life from above. Stand far away and observe yourself in the context of your past, present, and future. You might even want to imagine you’re a wise spirit or...

Mainstream psychology has it backwards; trying to conform to a societal standard of normality doesn’t make us well—it makes us ill! In my decades of clinical practice I’ve rarely seen someone heal and transform their life by trying to be “normal.” I've seen folks...

If you’re like most folks, you get so caught up in daily life you lose contact with what really matters to you. What do you secretly long for? Yes, we all want to get rid of our problems but the absence of a problem still doesn’t connect …

Our problems, including the ones that seem to make no sense, happen for a logical reason. But we usually can’t see or feel this while we’re entangled in them. In order to connect with their underlying meaning we have to engage our imagination. We tend to equate...