SELF HELP EXERCISES

We all have an incredible amount of strength but many of us fail to identify with it. When we get hints of our power we look the other way. We pursue a diminished version of ourself—one victimized by life. We seek comfort as the solution to feeling oppressed. But the...

The psyche has two main interacting parts. One part consists of our primary identity. It speaks in “I” statements. “I’m so-and-so, this is what I want, like, dislike, think, feel, believe, etc.. I call this our “First Mind” because it’s the first thing that comes into...

Our processes have two parts—who we think we are and who we’re meant to become. We identify with our known self / comfort zone, and fear or remain unaware of what’s on the other side—our greater, more evolved self. Between these two parts lies everything that blocks...

In the book, "The Teachings of Don Juan," the character, Don Juan, says, "Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere but one has a heart, the other doesn’t. One makes for a joyful journey; as long...

The capacity to observe yourself determines how you experience life. The more reactive you are, the less options you have. Most of us are on automatic, lost in the flow of our perceptions, and the only thing that wakes us up for a moment is a painful event or a...

One of the most common and painful experiences we have is hearing the voice of an inner critic. It can range from mildly negative thoughts about yourself to devastating destruction of your character and even of life itself. It has many different effects on people —...

It’s become popular in therapy and self-help to use mindfulness methods for observing the negative stories we tell ourselves (“I’m not good enough,” “No one will ever love me,” etc.) with the aim of realizing they’re just stories, and we don’t have to be oppressed by...

Our lives are divided into 2 processes—the person we identify with and the person trying to be born. Between them lies a story. It’s where our fears, beliefs, past experiences, and future unknowns live. This story structures our life experiences and problems. Change...

Imprinted in our earliest dream or memory is our entire life’s personal growth task. Some of this task is inherited and some comes from our childhood experiences. Working on it can awaken us to the process behind our long-term problems. A simple start: Recall your...