SELF HELP EXERCISES

Asking yourself the right questions is the beginning of making positive change in your life. 1. Where are you in your relationship(s)? Which of your deepest needs are being met and which aren’t? What forbidden thoughts and feelings are you not expressing? What are...

Instead of starting your work day in the usual way—buckle down, get serious, make lists, kill the fun, etc.—flip the script and dance! Put on your favorite music, let go of your thoughts, and dance up a crazy storm for ten minutes! It can center you into the right...

Always find time to do the things that make you feel happy to be alive! No matter what’s going on make sure to do your soul-nourishing activities. You can also use them to grow and solve problems by studying what they do for you. What state of mind and body do they...

Contemplate your life from the view of the cosmos! As often as you can take a few minutes to look at your life from above. Stand far away and observe yourself in the context of your past, present, and future. You might even want to imagine you’re a wise spirit or...

Conventional psychology has it backwards: Trying to conform to a societal standard of normality doesn’t make us well—it makes us ill! In my decades of clinical practice I’ve rarely seen someone heal and transform their life by trying to be “normal.” To the contrary,...

If you’re like most folks, you get so caught up in daily life you lose contact with what really matters to you. What do you secretly long for? Yes, we all want to get rid of our problems but the absence of a problem still doesn’t connect …

Our problems, including the ones that seem to make no sense, happen for a logical reason. But we usually can’t see or feel this while we’re entangled in them. In order to connect with their underlying meaning we have to engage our imagination. We tend to equate...

There are many things in life we can’t control but we can intervene in our own processes. When we feel stuck, depressed, anxious, or frustrated there’s another part of ourselves that’s already free of the problem. It lies just outside our awareness and has a...

There’s a reason we like to do certain things but it’s not just because they give us joy. We're drawn to these activities because they give us a taste of our higher self. Everyone has something that temporarily frees them from the bondage of their limitations and life...